Now I know this will be weird, because I’m a version of yourself you would have never expected to become, especially not at the age of sixteen. I want you to take everything I tell you and just let it process because this is how your life has been planned out to be, I know you’re a firm believer of “everything happens for a reason”. Let me begin with the small fact that you are exactly a week away from turning 21–yes the age where you can legally drink and buy alcohol–but trust me, you won’t be having the party you might have expected. Instead of going to a club with a guy completely different than the one you’re dating now and a bunch of crazy superficial girls that I know you wish you were, you’ll be spending it at a restaurant with your absolute best friend and your wonderful boyfriend. It will also be four days earlier than expected. On your actual birthday, you’ll probably have night class and after have your favorite coldstone cake–yes A cheesecake named Desire– the one you have every year because it’s just that good. Now don’t be too disappointed at this outcome, it’s actually much better than something as “typical” as going out and getting intoxicated with people who aren’t really your friends.
Let me then state the reason for this outcome you are not so happy to hear about.
Well, in about a year, two months after your seventeenth birthday, you will find out that you are pregnant.
okay, please breathe. It’s not as bad as you think it is… It’s much worse.
haha I’m kidding I wish I could see the expression on your face right now.
I am telling you though, that life will be harder. Having a child is no joke, you will experience some really emotionally painful things throughout your pregnancy, your labor and your child’s life.
I won’t spoil it and tell you the sex, just know you will love this child more than anything in this world. Yes, that does include your horrible addiction to energy drinks, that you will be very grateful to have stopped drinking over the years. They’re terrible for you.
Are you still worried about the being a teen mom thing?
Don’t be, let things happen in their own time. Also know that you have an amazing support group, you have a wonderful family that loves you, and this includes non-immediate family. Millions of people will love your child from the beginning and many more that you could not have expected. Be grateful for this, I know I am.
I must add, that your sister will be one of your best friends– I mean she always has been, but not quite like this. You’ll be happy for it actually. Your best friend, you won’t even meet till college, and as crazy as she is, she’s smart, supportive and will be like your sister.
You’ll be in a relationship with a phenomenal guy, no, not the guy you’re currently with, but he does become your friend in the future. He’s the best guy you’ll ever find and it’s funny because you definitely won’t be able to guess who it is.but let me give you a hint.. you already know who he is.
again, I wish I could see your face, you’re probably so confused or in your terms “Confuzzled”
Unfortunately, you won’t go to a four year school–at least not right away, community college will be a huge downer but it’s not about the parties and the “college experience” it’s about your education and your future career. Oh, I didn’t mention this, but you won’t be a graphic designer– and it’s a good thing! because you like your new major much more. The most important thing is that your child needs you now, at this precious time between the ages of birth and 5, enjoy the heck out of them because these years fly by in the blink of an eye.
Your tears will no longer be about how you don’t feel accepted at school, they’ll be about much bigger and more important things.
Now, all these things might sound extremely difficult but you do get a little time to yourself to go out and have fun, it’s not the “typical” amount for your age but then again you have never been typical. It’s a good thing, stay that way.
I most definitely will advice you, to please for the dear love of God to LOVE YOURSELF. You are your biggest critic and you still are, you’re a funny, wonderful, intelligent, and beautiful person.
I know exactly what you just thought and hush. You are. Beauty is much more than a pretty face, and you are blessed with it in ways more than externally.
Don’t give up, times will get hard and it’s OKAY to cry about it, but don’t spend the whole time crying. keep moving and don’t look back, your past is your past and you need to accept that you cannot change it. Instead learn from it and turn it into a brighter future, not only for yourself..but for your precious little blessing. He/She is so perfect in so many aspects you’ll find it hard to believe that such a person exists.
This little person will change you in the most positive ways and all the things you think you are not, you definitely are.
so out of this I want you to know three things.
1. Love yourself, there’s not a single person in the world like you and you are loved by many
2. Be grateful for those who care about you and help you, you’d be somewhere completely different without them
3. Keep moving forward, simply that and try not to look back.
Don’t cry too much, I know you will do fantabulously.
Sincerely, and with love
you, age 21